Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Day 14... Thanks FB

Someone I've drifted away from? Hmm. There are a lot of people. I make friends pretty easily and as I grow and change so do my associations. I lose common ground with people and gain it with others. Different stages of life call for different types of relationships. For example, I no longer associate with guys, unless through my husband. I know to some people that sounds silly and whatever but for me and my marriage, out of respect for my husband I keep my close friends in the genre of female. Another example is that of married vs. single, or parent vs. non-parent... It may seem like these adversities shouldn't make a difference in a relationship, but they do. During the dating process, when you know you've found "the one" you stop relating to people who don't understand, or who try to tell you its wrong. And in the 9 months it takes to have a baby... the friends who don't understand what its like to be pregnant and not want to go out at night or do anything for that matter, well they tend to drift away... So as I've grown and changed there have been a lot of relationships, not necessarily lost, but changed for sure. On the flip side of that coin, I have made some really great relationships and met people who've truly enriched my life for the long run.
I view the drifting as a positive thing because as much of a people person as I am, I don't think we're designed for that many close relationships with people and I think all things happen for one reason or another, so I may have drifted out of some one's life to make room for another person who can really benefit them. Thanks goodness for social media sites like Facebook, so we're all able to stay in touch even if it's just to click on a picture to see how someone is doing or see a status and offer words of encouragement or advice. Through today's technology, its hard to drift away from people completely, because you can always see whats going on in their world. :) Thanks FB!

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